I have a lot to say on the topic of “Oneness,” after all I am a healer committed to being in service to humanity. The big “I AM,” or oftentimes more like “who am I?” This question of “who am I” comes up a lot when focused on transformation of self and others on a daily basis. Recently, at a dinner party I came to an epiphany that I’m a F.O.F., Facilitator of Freedom. I facilitate people in getting free to experience personal growth, whatever the transition may be – health, relationship, career – all of the above. Freedom can be from others opinions, judgements, and generally letting go of whatever obstacles you may have in the way. Being free is an exhilarating proposition, whether you jump out of an airplane and sail through the air at a gazillion miles an hour before pulling that parachute cord or not. Many of us live in fear of whether we have the “right” image, are doing what we are “supposed to” and pleasing others to the point we lose our own identity. Sometimes we lose others we love in the process. Being free from all this drama and trauma we accumulate in a lifetime is quite an accomplishment.
If you weren’t aware, the field of transformation is a recent industry title for anyone dedicating their time and energy to serving people in breaking through limiting behaviors, thoughts, habits, and lifestyles into a greater connection with themSelves (capital S) and others. People who used to be simply called therapists with a psychology doctorate degree and a well-worn leather couch, are now an eclectic blend of healers, shamans, coaches, yogis, light workers, gurus. Often a guru is complete with a following that demonstrates a so-called level of importance, although this is somewhat antithetical to having truly transformed because NEEDING to have followers as any level of validation is an egoic status in and of itself. Human nature I suppose, our need for “significance and recognition.” I feel that. It also seems there is great importance placed on having spent time discovering oneself in India.
Personally I would like to go to India and spend some undefined length of time in an ashram with a guru, however, it’s more from a cultural curiosity than a belief that it will bring me to greater oneness. Maybe it will if I stay detached enough about it.
What does this awakening to oneness mean to me? It’s a really a practice of all the different ways to BE, more specifically in love and connection with ourSelves, each other, and all that is. Be-ing means we get to step out of fear that comes from forgetting our true divine nature and place a big toe on the pause button. I love the pause button. It brings me into the present moment whether it’s with the beauty of nature; or music, art, dance, any creativity really; or even the ecstatic connection of sharing love, what we love, or love making…this is where our Be-ingness resides. In these spaces inbetween the rush and seriously sped up motion of daily life.
Take a moment and hit your pause button to feel the connection with all that is. Inbetween, underneath, inside, outside, and around the everything else. It’s always there, who we really are.
In love and gratitude,
Valerie
www.invigorateu.com









